Home for the Holidays?

If I were to say the word Holiday to you I do believe that word association would lead many of you to words such as Merry or Happy.  There may be some who would even associate the word Thankful when they hear the word holiday.  I do believe that these words should come to mind and one more if you will, Family.  All of these word associations come to mind when you think of being “Home for the Holidays!”  Sadly though, there are some who when they hear “Home for the Holidays,” they associate words such as Loneliness, Loss, Sadness, or Regrettable Memories.  Words such as Merry, Happy and Joyous are overshadowed by words such as Death, Divorce and other avenues of Sorrow or Stress.

After some twenty years of pulpit ministry and an additional five years of ministry as a Hospital Chaplain I have seen more families face the loss of a loved one more during the Holiday months than at any other.  This actually gives new meaning to the phrase “Home for the Holidays,” especially after experiencing the passing away of a loved one.  This is so, because home will not seem like home to them anymore since their loved one will no longer be there.  That thought alone is enough to bring some down into the depths of depression.  Yes they are not here but they are where they will ever be happiest, for they are safe in the arms of the Lord.

A typical conversation that starts up after a loved one passes around the holidays is that the holidays will never be the same again.  You find that people will begin to fret over the next time that the family gathers for a Holiday gathering.  We often find that unresolved grief will also cause an increase in the stress level of people.  They will become prematurely saddened because their loved one that passed away earlier will not be there at home leaving an awkward void in the holiday festivities.  I am led here to say that the truth of the matter is, they are home; they have gone home to Jesus.  Those of us who are left behind are just that, we are left behind.  We are but strangers in a world that is not our home.  When they took their last breath they were home with Jesus.  We are confident in this because the Scripture assures us that we can.  “We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. (9) Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him.” (2 Corinthians 5:8-9) Not only do we find this truth in the New Testament but in the Old Testament as well, “Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it.” (Ecclesiastes 2:7) Once our traveling’s here in this world are over we go home to be with the Lord.  What causes grief to escalate into holiday despair is found in the lack of forgiveness and closure.  This in turn increases their selfish desire to hold onto the past causing them to remaining emotionally stagnant.  Having an understanding and trust in God’s plan helps us to grasp a firm hold upon the truth that our loved ones are with the Lord.  Our desires need to be readdressed to the truth of the Scriptures which let us know that as David said of his infant son who passed away, “And he said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether God will be gracious to me, that the child may live? (23) But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.” (2 Samuel 12:22-23)

The Lord has warned us not to get to familiar with this world in which we live; we are told not to get too comfortable in this world because it is not our final home.  We are not to get too attached to the things of this world but that is a hard lesson for all men to learn.  That which we love in this world beacons us to long for and cling to it.  Love is one of the most precious gifts that God has given us and it is an emotion that cries out to be given to others.  There is nothing wrong with loving life nor that which life brings us.  The rift that a lost loved one leaves in our lives causes many struggle or spin out of control as they try to repair it.  At the same time we need to remember that this world is not our final destination; it is just a temporal place to journey through.  God has prepared a place for us and one day we will go to that home.  “Wherefore Jesus also, that he might sanctify the people with his own blood, suffered without the gate. (13) Let us go forth therefore unto him without the camp, bearing his reproach. (14) For here have we no continuing city, but we seek one to come.” Hebrews 13:12-14  We also see this truth in Peter’s writings, “Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul; (12) Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation.” (1 Peter 2:11-12)

So if we are strangers here on earth then we are to be at home with the Father and in His house.  The things in this life are just temporal and fleeting.  Those who have gone on before us have realized this and they now wait for us there.  It is the place where our hope is turned into reality, a place where we are to be at home with the Father.  Jesus said, “In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you.  I go to prepare a place for you. (3) And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.” (John 14:2-3).  With this in mind let me say that the next time you sing “I’ll be home for Christmas,” you can assuredly sing the last verse which says, “If only in my dreams.” 

For only those who have gone on before us are truly, “Home for Christmas.”

Circling the Wagons

I was talking to a close friend and fellow counselor the other day who had mentioned that it had been a while since I had posted anything; like a lot of us we have a tendency to get busy and yet I do regret it that I have not posted an article for a while.  It was not long before our discussion turned to the Church and the need for Biblical Counseling to be a vital ministry of all churches.  My friend, who I have known over six years, has been a member of two different churches in the time that I have known him.  The church that he is currently a member of is a different denominational back ground than the one that I am currently a member of.  Half way through the conversation we became aware of the differences between one denomination and another.  Some of the circles that I have had the privilege to work with would say that we are in different camps.  We are both members of the “Church” but members of different camps with in the church.  

I must say that the word “Camp” almost always strikes an odd chord with me when spoken of about the church.  I am not referring to “Christian Day Camps” or “Christian Youth Camps” but camps of the same sort such as medical, political and even Christian.  With some medical camps you have those who are driven passionately to treat all things solely with medicine while others look to surgery as the main avenue of treatment.  With political parties you have the Republican party (or camp) and the Democrats (as the other camp), both saying they know what is good for the country but when you look at their voting record, you will find that they strongly lean to please their party (or camp) in lieu of the need of those who have helped them get elected.  We have the same thing in Christianity, some camps say salvation is in works while others emphatically deny that and say that it is by faith alone, sadly there are camps with in these camps.  I am saying all of this to say that in most Christian circles it is camps that keep us from achieving all that God would have us to do.  For years I have made it a practice of reading various blog sites, articles and books by Christian Counselors and the camp lines with in them are becoming more and more evident every day.

The truth is that camps are separators.  It is the separation of camps that get us focused on the minors.  We often find that one camp is writing and gearing up for an attack against the other.  They do so as if to say let’s not worry about what the true issues are  as much as getting their point across that the writer of one camp wants to come across as more right than the one that he is writing about.  I am finding out that many of these writers are spending much more time and effort attacking each other than they do on the problems.  In doing so it is almost as if they become another problem incarnate.  Book stores and Blog sites are filled with volumes written and being written about various issues but many of the average reader find themselves losing heart in their efforts.  They spend hours trying to sort through the attack language and get weighed down in the authors ego mire.  Finding themselves finished before they get to the answers that the author originally intended to write about.  Sadly the truths in some of these books and articles are never found as readers too soon tire of the search and toss them aside.

It is sad in that you often find one counselor promoting the acronyms of the group(s) that he belongs to and talking against the acronyms of another group.  One group supports a certain group of authors and the other an entirely different group.  Humility is often replaced by pride and arrogance as their history and experience with working with others increases.  They sit by watching and witnessing the Holy Spirit as He works in the counselee’s heart and life at times in spite of the sin of the counselor.  Do they not see that their sin will soon find us out (Numbers 32:23)?  Could this sin possibly be revealed in an open session or in open writing?  With some of these counselors it seems that the truth of His Grace and Mercy does not extend toward some Biblical Counselors that they do not see eye to eye with.  In essence we hear them say, I love you brother but…, I love you sister but…, well, “Billy goats butt”.  Grace, mercy and forgiveness is what we are called to minister yet we find that some fail to practice especially in written form.

I do not believe that any of us are really exempt, we are all in danger of being caught up in the “your camp my camp mentality.”  We find that many of the writers take a sectarian stand when it comes to their group or camp.  Yet if we are truly Biblical we should turn first to the Scriptures for the answers.  It is interesting to note that when confronted with sectarianism Jesus himself forbid it as we see in Luke 9:49-50, “‘Now John answered and said, “Master, we saw someone casting out demons in Your name, and we forbade him because he does not follow with us.’ (50) But Jesus said to him, ‘Do not forbid him, for he who is not against us is on our side.’”  Sectarianism is a word which can conjure up a plethora of emotions, opinions and perspectives this is because the term can take on different meanings depending on how it is used.  According to one definition, “sectarianism is bigotry, discrimination, or narrow-minded hatred arising from attaching importance to perceived differences between subdivisions within a group, such as between different denominations of a religion, class, or factions of a political movement.”  I bet that this does sound a bit familiar to some.

The right question to ask is, “Is it really important for the cause of Christ?”  Is Jesus being glorified as we openly and unapologetically attack our brethren in Christ?  Are we really doing more damage to the Biblical Counseling Ministry that He has called us to by constantly attacking and bemoaning other counselors?  We should not walk into the counseling room to help someone before we get the splinter out of our own eye.  I do believe that there are some who carry a forest of beams in their own eyes.  We find this truth in this familiar passage of Scripture, Matthew 7:3-5 “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? (4) Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? (5) Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”  In doing so are we not guilty of grieving the Holy Spirit as well?  I do believe that we would all do well to have a permanent book mark in our Bibles to the fourth chapter of Ephesians.  We do well to teach the biblical rules of communication but some are still far from grasping them, from fully understanding the impact that they have on every relationship that we have.

It is now time to stop the separation and start circling the wagons and fighting the true enemy.  It is time to circle the wagons and protect that which is precious from the one who is trying so hard to destroy it.  If not we will be destined and determined to minimize the true fight by fighting ourselves while the real enemy laughs at us.  He has taken the tactic of divide-and-conquer to a new level by dividing us and getting us to fight each other.  This is what is evident among most Christian groups today.  A horse of a different color does not make it any less a horse.  We must learn to set our differences, our prejudice’s aside and start working together.  As believers in Christ we have just one mission and that is to bring honor to and glorify Christ.  Remember Luke 9:50? “‘… Jesus said to him, ‘Do not forbid him, for he who is not against us is on our side.’” 

I am reminded of author Walt Kelly, he wrote of a comic strip character named Pogo who is quoted as saying, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” 

So where do we go from here?

You wake up one morning and your mind is clouded and your heart is filled with questions.  Who is to be your God?  Who is your main idol?  Who are you going to follow?  How can you see God?  How can you see Jesus?  It is a wonder that you can even think of God at all with all of the other god's or idols in your life?  How can you claim to love Jesus when you cannot get close to Him with the idols in your life?

Can you hear him with all these voices screaming for your attention?  Can you really say that you follow His call, His leading with all of these others demanding you hear and please them?  Is He really the King of your life with all of these idols?  They do not have to demand time and do not, but you allow and offer them that time that belongs to Jesus, time that is really not yours to give.

How often do we take that which is God’s and cast it before swine?  How often do we take that which is God’s and stomp it under foot?  How often do we in our own arrogance take that which is God’s and sinfully abuse it then in turn walk in His house singing “Everything’s all right,” knowing full well that it is not.  How often do we hypocritically march into His house pointing out those that we perceive as hypocrites.  It is a good thing that there is not a mirror for us to look into to expose us.  Yet we fail to remember or realize that our all knowing, all seeing God is keenly aware of who and what we really are. 

It is a good thing that we cannot smell the stench of our spiritual hypocrisy or maybe not?  Oh that God would allow us to see and comprehend the sin that is in our lives and what does it do to our relationship with Him?  Our spiritual awareness is dulled by our sin that we often believe that our goodness is good enough while we are deeply entrenched in sin

Isn't it time to surrender to Jesus all that is in your heart and life?  Isn't it time to surrender to Jesus all that you have raised up in your life?  Isn't it really time to truly stop and take a look at the shambles your spiritual life has become, because of your pride and idol allowances? 

Place them one by one in front of Jesus and slay them in his presence.  Whether it be money, occupation, things, family, friends, whatever or whomever it is.  We must slay these idols before the King of Kings and allow him once again His rightful place on the throne of our heart.

It is no wonder that you're not happy, it is no wonder you are not content, you have tried to place Jesus on your idol shelf and he will not stand for it.  He will either expose them as idols they are and make you deal with them or he will do with you because of them.  He is a jealous God and rightfully so.  Notice this passage of scripture from 1 Samuel.  "Then the Philistines took the ark of God and brought it from Ebenezer to Ashdod.  When the Philistines took the ark of God, they brought it into the house of Dagon and set it by Dagon.  And when the people of Ashdod arose early in the morning, there was Dagon, fallen on its face to the earth before the ark of the Lord .  So they took Dagon and set it in its place again.  And when they arose early the next morning, there was Dagon, fallen on its face to the ground before the ark of the Lord .  The head of Dagon and both the palms of its hands were broken off on the threshold; only Dagon’s torso was left of it.  Therefore neither the priests of Dagon nor any who come into Dagon’s house tread on the threshold of Dagon in Ashdod to this day." (1 Samuel 5:1-5)

In this passage of Scripture we see what takes place in our hearts we try to place God alongside another idol.  Dagon was an idol of the Philistines the idol had the head and arms of a man and the remaining torso of fish.  God's final point in this passage of Scripture is it when you remove the hands and head of your false god all that remains is the fishy part and it stinks.

God will not be placed with idols, he has to stand alone.  He must be placed separate and alone on the throne of your heart.  Someone once said that He is either Lord of all or He is not Lord at all." How true that is.

How can you serve Him when you're in the way?  How can you serve Him when you place idols in the way?  How can you serve Him when you allow your sin you to do so? 

If we want to be what He wants us to be, if we are to serve Him as He would have us to serve him, if we are to lead as He would have us to lead then we need to step out of the way.  We need to remove our clutter, we need to remove our junk, so that we can see Him, so that we can hear Him, and so that we can follow Him as we should.

The winding down of one or the beginning of another…

Now that Christmas is over our focus has changed and is now zeroing in on the New Year that is closing in on us.  With each New Year we become more aware of the great responsibility that they bring with them.  This is a realization that bears upon us as we mature in Christ.  Along with the realization of the New Year comes a stark reality of the responsibility we have here as a child of God, an understanding that each day is important.  As we all know, at this time of year many people are busy planning and out their New Year's resolutions getting ready to make promises that they cannot keep will not keep or even try to keep.  It is sad that we wait for one day of the year to do so when it should be our practice every day of the year.  Many of the New Year’s resolutions that will be made may last weeks some will last days, most will only make it a few hours.  I know of a person who made a resolution and broke it 13 seconds later.  What we need to do instead of making a New Year’s resolution, we should make New Years revolutions for and regarding Christ.  To be what He wants us to be.  To act as He would have us to act.  In other words, we are to act and live our lives Christ-like.  People should be able to see him in us, they should desire that which is within us.

Instead of making a New Year’s resolution why not do something significant for Christ.  Why not make a New Years Commitment to Him.  What if God’s people decided to take the time this New Year’s Day to rededicate their hearts and minds to Him?  Why not take a moment to re-commit your heart and life to love, honor and be all for Christ as He would have us to be?  We just went through a holiday that celebrated His birth.  The season that began with a holiday celebration of His physical commitment to us; a commitment to come and walk among us, to live with us and to ultimately be a sacrifice for us.  This then leads us to the end of the year with many planning for the New Year.

Too often we find ourselves quickly turning form the joyous celebration of the birth of Christ and reverting back to our selfish ways or toward selfish desires. Our failures at resolutions are just that, they are “our failures.” We want to do or not do, we want to have or not have or we want be like or unlike. All in all they are “Our” wishes, they are “Our” desires and they are all based on “Our” selfishnesses. We cannot serve Christ in our selfishness. Getting back to the root of the majority of many New Year’s resolutions is a selfish boasting on our part.

 

The Bible reminds us in James 4:13- 16, “Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit’; (14) whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow.  For what is your life?  It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.  (15) Instead you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.’ (16) But now you boast in your arrogance.  All such boasting is evil.”

 

If we really believe what the Scripture says here then should we not want to commit or recommit out hearts and minds to Him?  Instead of making a resolution that we know will not last, why not make a commitment to Him, to re-dedicate our life to Him and allow the help of the Holy Spirit to encourage you though out the year to keep our promise to Him as He has kept His promises to us?

 

If the Scriptures are right (and I do believe that they are) then life is a vapor and is destined to pass away and at best quicker than we expect it to.  Why not re-surrender your heart, soul and mind to the Lord Jesus.  Why not make this year the Year of the Lord for all in your life to bear witness too.

 

Today, December 25, 2012

Today there are presents under Christmas trees in Newtown that will go unopened.  This will be a Christmas morning that will be filled with tears of pain and sorrow.  It will be a day that is filled with questions anger and doubts.  For some it will also be a day of victory, one of overcoming and the start of much needed healing.  This year so many will have more to be thoughtful for while others will be facing another day of emptiness that they should not have to be facing.  There will be an emptiness that will never be filled, a void that is now nothing more than a cold, dark empty space with the heart and souls of the parents who have suffered loss.

Today in Newtown CT there are Mother’s tears which will flow uncontrolled and will go unanswered.  There are father’s sorrows that will grip at their hearts that only the pain of a loss can do.  There are arms that will ache for that which has been too soon removed from them.  One small town in Connecticut like so many across America has a suffered loss of a great price. 

Today across America we must also not forget the parents and spouses of our fallen military.  Their sorrow is so often overlooked because of the separation and sacrifice of war.  It is still a sacrifice as they have volunteered to go and defend our country and those on foreign lands.  It is a sadder loss because of separation, the news of the loss reaches the hearts long before the closure of a final look. 

Today some 2000 years ago God’s son left heavens glory for a bed of straw of a stable in the little town of Bethlehem.  He came down from His eternal home to be born to die for the sins of mankind.  He came to offer all men something that had never before been offered, a personal relationship with God.  This relationship offers us Grace for every trial and tribulation that we will face while we are alive here.

Today the invitation to accept Christ is open and extended to anyone who has not received Him as their personal savior.  His saving grace is available to any and all who will repent of their sins and call upon Him.  He offers and abundance of mercy t all those who will accept Him.

Today the statement once said still holds true, “Wise men still seek Him.” 

Will you? 

Will you show yourself wise and open your heart to Jesus? 

Will you recognize that you are a sinner lost and in need of His saving grace?  -  Romans 3:10 & 23

Will you confess that you are a lost sinner in need of His saving grace?  -  Romans 6:23

Will you open your heart to him and con fess your need of His saving grace?  -  Romans 10:9 & 10

And:

Will you call upon Him and receive Him as your personal Savior?  -  Romans 3:23

If you will please let us know, we would love to hear from you.

The Wrapping…or what’s inside?

There is not a single parent who will read this that will not testify to the fact that for kids it is more about the box than the gift.  I can remember many a Christmas morning sitting on the couch with my wife in the family room.  We were both in our night clothes drinking coffee relaxing, easing down from the excitement of Christmas morning.  The dog was there on the couch between us seeking protection from the unwrapping frenzy that had just taken place.  We sat there watching the kids play with the empty cardboard boxes that we had paid plenty for.  Of course the toys that were in the boxes were now scattered around that same room.  Action figures with their blank stares looking straight at the ceiling half covered in wrapping paper left behind from the gift opened after it.  New books stacked against the couch, teetering on the coffee table or laid open on the floor.  Of course there were a few new clothing items, most were un-carefully wadded up into a ball and tossed up over the couch toward the tree.  All of which made for the festive picture before us as we relaxed midst the blinking of the Christmas lights and the laughter of the boys playing.
 
As I surveyed the room I could see the piles of wrapping paper, I could almost make out each gift that we purchased but the only thing missing from the picture were the boys and the boxes.  Somewhere behind the remaining furniture in the room you could here the sounds of the boys playing.  Their laughter was overwhelming at times which in turn increased our joy.  They were having fun; there was no doubt about that.  I was just amazed at what they were having fun with.  Sometimes I wonder if I would be better off just purchasing some empty boxes for their Christmas presents.  That of course we could never do but I have to admit that the thought had crossed my mind more than once and has always been shot down.

Reflecting upon this scene of Christmas past I am wondering if this could be part of the reason that so many of the young believers that I come in contact with have no depth to them.  The question that is raised is, “Could this be why Christianity is getting shallow?”  Could it be that so many people are more fascinated with the cross than they are with the Christ?  They openly strut around with a large wood, silver or gold cross hanging around there neck.  Their Persona reeks of a look-at-me attitude as they strut around like roosters in a hen house.  Their appearance is of a Christian nature but their actions are far from it.  It has often been quoted, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and ugly goes all the way to the bone.”  The truth is, it really matters not because that which we see is initially the package wrapper.  It is what’s inside the package that counts.  Our society is so caught up in looks and appearance that they often miss the true message.

My plea at this time is that we must not get too caught up in the wrapping.  Look beyond that which is obvious and see the real beauty of Christ.  Remember:

·         John the baptist wore animal skins and Solomon was partial to wearing fine robes. 

·         Elijah was a hairy man & Elisha was a bald man. 

·         Saul was at least a head taller than most men & David was a small ruddy looking boy. 

·         Moses and Aaron were brothers, Moses had a speech impediment and did most of talking where Aaron was an eloquent speaker and spoke very little. 

·         Naaman was a leper and Steven had the face of an angel. 

·         Rachel and Leah were the daughters of Laban. Rachel was more beautiful than Leah who was considered plainer in looks. 

·         Hezekiah was a king and Lazarus was a beggar. 

Jesus came to us as a babe, wrapped in swaddling clothes and lying in a manger (Luke 2:11-12).  He left us wearing modest clothing and hanging on a cross (Luke 23:33-34).  I must tell you that He is more than the babe in the manger and far greater than the man on the cross.  He is the Christ, our risen Lord and Saviour.  He is the Lord and creator of all things and He alone is to worshiped and adored everyday of the year and not just during this holiday season.  We need to look beyond the wrapping and look inside and see Him as He really is.  We need to see Him and more; we need to fall in love with Him afresh.  Renew your relationship with Him or start a relationship with Him.  Let’s be as excited as the woman at the well who after meeting Him ran back to town with a message, “Come, see a Man who told me all things that I ever did. Could this be the Christ?” John 4:29

Please do not take me the wrong way regarding the cross; there is nothing wrong with wearing a cross as a sign of your faith.  But it is far greater for people to see Jesus in you and to be called a Christian, than to be shallow and all show, having to proclaim your stand.  Having actions and behaviorisms that are Christ-like will far out weigh anything that we say.  Especially now that we are in the midst of this special Holiday season, people need to see Christ in others.  They need to see it in actions as well as hear it in word. 

Rules, no matter how much we dislike them are Necessary

Rules are a part of life and they exist to help us enjoy and endure the life in which we live.  We must even agree that we will often find rules when placed in a situation where we are unaware of them.  The truth is, rules are set in place to help set up boundaries and these boundaries actually provide us more freedom than they do restrictions.  Many will say just the opposite that rules are restricting until they come to the realization that most of our freedom is based upon rules.  Without the presence of rules there would be absolute chaos.  No one seems to be in favor of many of the rules in their lives yet they are there to help us more than hurt us.

We find that throughout the Scriptures God presented the children of man with rules.  He began the process in the Garden of Eden with one basic rule, and as we all know, man failed.  He tried again with Noah and the Ark, though Noah obeyed them, not all of his family did.  God tried again with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and then with Joseph and the trials they went through in Egypt.  Later in the Word of God we find that He set forth His first major attempt of setting up rules with Moses.  God put forth His foundational set of ten rules written is stone, given to Moses on Mount Sinai and they are called the Ten Commandments.  These Ten Commandments or rules if you will were given by the hand of God for us to live by.  They were given to Moses by the direct hand of God.  This was His foundational set of ten which are still current to all men today.  From these hand written commandments God continue to build upon to build up to a total of over 600.  That is a lot of laws, a lot of rules to follow.  But they are all set in place as helps, as boundaries to improve our lives and relationship with the Lord.

In our day and age we still observe the Ten Commandments (or all at least struggle trying to do so).  We find that there are rules set I place to help, guide and protect us.  All of them are important no matter how much we may dislike them.  Some rules are placed before us and we are fascinated by them.  Many who have watched the TV Series NCIS know that the lead character, Special Agent Leroy Jethro Gibbs has a set of some 69 rules that he lives by.  These rules are also used to help manage and mature those who work for him.  Those whom he is responsible for are well aware of his set of rules and try to work with in them.

The truth of the matter is, for society as a whole to function properly there must be rules.  Even in the possible absence of society there will be rules.  One major fascination in the entertainment world today is the unlikely event of a “Zombie Apocalypse.”  What helps the people survive even in those circumstances are the establishment and following of rules.  We see evidence of this in the spoof movie “Zombieland.”  In this film we find that the lead character has his set of 32 rules.  These are set in place to help him to survive.  In the AMC Television series “The Walking Dead,” there are rules.  Without the existence of rules there is chaos.  When people are gathered together for whatever reason we find that there will soon set up some rules. 

No matter where we are in our lives, no matter what position we hold, there are always rules there are always boundaries that help formulate each step I life.  I know that with some people when it comes to rules there is a lot of disgust, detestation, abhorrence, and loathing going on in the world today, and that often translates down into one word which is hate.  Rules and boundaries are a part of our lives and quite necessary no matter who we are or what we do. 

With this said, I do not know how many times I have spent many hours in my office counseling those who are in need.  All who come in, for whatever reason, are there because of a rule infraction.  The rules have been broken, lines have been crossed and violations have occurred.  One of the most popular statements made when it comes to rules is that the violator hates to be controlled by them.  Hate, is a strong word and is common in the counseling room.  I have often heard that little four-letter word come across my desk in the counseling office.  What I do find that saddens me is that those who come in and sit across from me are often guilty of the same sin that they hate in others.  They have come into the office to discuss their anger and hatred of others totally oblivious that they are equally as guilty.  They are tired of the rules; they are tired of the boundaries.  Jesus said in John 14:15, “If you love Me, keep My commandments.”  Here in these seven words we find a perfect statement.  To love is to keep the commandments or the rules.  They wonder why they have problems, they wonder why there is strife and they wonder why God is not blessing them.  From here we must direct them to what is said prior to verse fifteen.  John 14:12-14, “Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do he will do also; and greater works than these he will do, because I go to My Father. (13) And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. (14) If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.”

Their anger and hatred of rules can often be traced to selfishness and the sin of rebellion against God.  Those who are tired of the rules are tired of the boundaries and in essence they are tired of God trying to rule their lives.  As I sat in the office going over my notes for the week’s sessions I could not help but to notice the one common thought that ran like a thread though almost every case.  That thought lay in the phrase “I hate.”  It was associated with almost every session.  The hate that they held for the other was rooted in distrust resulting in anger toward God and the rules of God.  Jesus said in John 15:9-14, “As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love. (10) If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. (11) ‘These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full. (12) This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. (13) Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. (14) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.’”  We find in this passage that Jesus Himself said that if we keep His commandments His rules that He will abide in us.  Verse fourteen clearly says sums it up in that our keeping His commandments is a sign that we are His friends and that we love Him.  If we are to “abide in Him” we need to follow Him and His commandments.  If we are to prove our love for Him we are to follow His rules. 

The truth many of us need to face is that rules are necessary.  Rules are necessary because we do not belong to ourselves anymore; we do not have the right to succumb to our own selfish desires any more.  We belong to Christ, He has bought us and we are subject to his rules.  I Corinthians 6:19-20, “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? (20) For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”  To hate the rules is to hate the one who wrote them.  To hate the writer is to hate Christ.